The creation of Mother’s day has an interesting history in the United States and this year marks the 100th celebration. The initiative to have an official Mother’s Day was driven by Anna Reeves Jarvis who in the 1900s spearheaded a holiday to celebrate the sacrifices mother’s make for their children. She herself never had children but her goal was for the holiday to be a celebration between families, mother’s and their children.
A few years after Mother’s Day became a holiday Anna Jarvis had noticed the increase in commercialism associated with Mother’s day. She was so upset by this that she started a campaign to get it removed from the calendar because she felt Mother’s Day had lost its purpose. She said, “To have Mother’s Day the burdensome, wasteful, expensive gift day that … other special days have become, is not our pleasure. If the American people are not willing to protect Mother’s Day from the hordes of money schemers that would overwhelm it with their schemes, then we shall cease having a Mother’s Day—and we know how.” As of 2017 the National Retail Federation list’s Mother’s Day as one of the top consumer spending holiday’s of the year, with spending close to $200.
As a therapist, I often spend a lot of time talking to clients about connection and relationship with important people in their life. In our culture, we are often driven to buy things to let people know we care about them. However, when you think of your favorite memories they aren’t about when you got new sneakers or a purse. Although you appreciate those things, favorite memories tend to be moments that we laughed or had an enjoyable experience with someone.
So consider Mother’s Day a reason to promote connection and relationship with a parent / caregiver / someone who made a sacrifice for you or an imprint on your life in a positive way. There are many different way’s we can offer to show appreciation to the mom in our life without spending a lot of money. Here is a list of ideas that promote connecting and building our relationship without spending a lot of money.
The best most memorable moments are the ones that you spend together; what kind of memory will you make this year?
ROSE LAPIERE, LPC, RPT-S, ACS